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Science is the enemy of autistic people? 

I am becoming increasingly worried and annoyed by a seemingly growing anti-scientific research crowd in the autistic communinty.  

Firstly there is the nothing about us without us argument.  According to some, all research should be led by autistic people.  Basiclly they say that non-autistic people could not understand or care engouth about autistic people to do the research for any reason that is not malevolant.  Some take it even further saying not only should the research be led by an autistic person, but only autistic people should be involved at all.  I think it is actually best to have both autistic and non-autistic scientists involved, to prevent bias.  An outsiders input is needed to have fair research, in order to see the wider prosepctive and how other things maybe influcing the results.  It can be easier sometimes for people who do not have autistim to see clearly what is going on and to not get things muddled up with their own subconcious isuses on the subject.  There are good reasons to have autistic scientistis involved as well, but not solely autistic ones. (A good article on outsider-insider research can be found at The Space Between: On Being an Insider-Outsider in Qualitative Research).  

Non-autistic people who choose to study autism have their reasons, often becuase they are realted to someone autistic like a sibling or they have an autistic person in their life they are close to.  Therefore most do not have malevolent intions, but care very much about autistic people.

Then their is the argument that all research into genetics and the brain functioning of autistic people must be for the purposes of eugenics.  Some say the only reason anyone would want to find the genetic link into autsim is to eradicate it.  A recent study into the genetics of autism was pused due to how controversial it became amoung a lot of autistic communities.  The main fears seemed to be around the collection of DNA samples.  I am not saying I agree or disagree with the study becuase I do not know engouth about it and it is quite complex, but I will say some of the arguments I have seen against it seem a little knee jerk in reaction.  Nowhere does the study mention wanting to cure autistic people or erridacate us.  

I also come across ‘I don’t like what this study found out so it must be wrong’ people.  They try to counter the study with other research, usually badly done non-scientific research.  Often their argument hinges on surveys done in social media groups who are bias and do not allow people to join the group who disagree with their point of view anyway.  Their arguments do not usually come from scientific papers or proper researchers so it is hard to take them seriously.  Sure, I do not always like the results of some studies, but me not liking them does not make them wrong.  

A lot of the people who campaign against and oppose research are very high functioning autistic or not even offically diagnosed, so they may struggle to see why research is needed.  They often fail to take into account how diffrent things are for lower functioning people or for those with less suppor.  If we can find out how autistic brains work we can understnad how to help autistic people better with the right therapies and support ti improve their lives.

I for one would like to be able to remove certain traits of my autistim.  I do not wish to cure it, but it would make my life a lot easier if I could supress certain traits I have little to no control over.  Studies trying to find medications to make lives better are not a bad thing.

I would like more autistic people to stand up for research and science., insteerad of mainly hearing the voices of those opposed to it.  Just becuase objectors often shout the loudest it does not mean all or even most autistic people are against it.  I have found other autistic people who actually want more research and do not seem to mind if it is autistic led or not. I would like people to make up their own mind about studies rather than jumping on the anti research bandwaggon becuase the group they follow on social media encoruages it.  

My messed up body and mind 

​Employment Support Allowance (ESA) is a government benefit paid out to those who have a disability or health condition that affects how much you can work (www.gov.uk).  I have been in receipt of this benefit for a number of years now.  Previously I was on Job Seekers Allowance, but after a breakdown and my mental health issues getting worse again, I asked my doctor to sign me off as sick as I realised that holding down a paying job at that time was unrealistic.

Sometimes people question why I do not have paying work.  People do not see me on my worst days when I stay at home too ill to go out.  Yes I have worked hard on both my physical and mental health to get fitter and stronger, but I am still in a place I feel I would be too unreliable to keep a job. I have recently had a more intense period of health issues which give a good example of why I am still on ESA.  

I do not think I have one health condition that by itself would prevent me from working because none of them individually are deemed that bad medically.  However when you combine all of my conditions that is when I become more disabled by them.  One of my conditions can flare up and then trigger another and sometimes another.  My body sometimes only needs one thing to go wrong to throw it off balance. 

This is my recent health issues within the last year.  I am not sharing this for sympathy, but to show what it is really like to live with a range of health issues and why some seemingly fit for work really have more going on than you may realise.  

Firstly there is my depression.  It comes in phases; I can go for months or even a year or two without it being a real problem.  Then it can flare up again, usually brought on by a lot of stress going on in my life or something going wrong, over time it can build up and can take months to die down again.  I have currently had issues going on with my depression for the best part of a year to varying degrees.  It reached a point I went to see my doctor about it.

My doctor and I have decided to change my medication.  Sounds simple enough, but before I can take new medication I have to get off my old medication.  I have been on my old medication for about seventeen years and they are one of the hardest SSRI to come off, especially after so long.  So I am very gradually reducing the dose I am taking with strict instructions on how to do this from my doctor.  I think this has effected my sleep, which I already had issues for most of my adult life, but now it has become even more of a problem.  I can struggle to fall asleep for well over an hour and sometimes wake up several times in the night.  I also do not think I am sleeping as deeply.  As with many autistic people and those with OCD I already feel I have chronic fatigue as it is, so this is definitely a problem.

Then last January I started to experience some wisdom tooth issues, and it turned out to be an impacted tooth, meaning it was growing crocked and hitting bone.  After several months of dental appoints, antibiotics to reduce the swelling and waiting for a referral I had my tooth removed at the hospital.  Having a sore gum all this time probably was not helping my already low mood.

Removing the wisdom tooth itself was pretty straight forward, but afterwards was when it really became an issue.  I ended up with dry socket, which is when a blood clot fails to form or gets dislodged from the gum where the tooth was removed.  Dry socket in itself is quite painful, but it also can lead to an infection getting in, which is exactly what happened to me.  So I had my gum repacked and was given antibiotics. Antibiotics almost never fail to make me feel at least a little bit sick and they gave me two kinds of antibiotics, so I knew that was not going to make me feel great.

The day after starting the antibiotics I had my second Covid vaccination.  Two days later and I felt dreadful.  So I had a gum infection, antibiotics, vaccine reaction and had a rather low mood before that, then the final straw I started my period!  So anyone would be feeling not so great by this point.  However I do not think I react like a lot of people do when I am ill.

For one thing when I feel really sick I often end up in a state of panic.  I actually have a slight fear feeling sick as I know I do not cope well with it.  I tend to sleep for an awful lot of the time when ill and hide away.  I do not function well when ill and dealing with other people can just cause me a meltdown.   I have always had a low pain threshold as well.  

I know autism plays a role in how rubbish I am at being ill.  The fact I get anxious and panic, loose some ability to control my emotions and get really upset at times.  My really low pain threshold is also quite common amongst autistic people.  Some in fact feel very little pain, to a dangerous degree in some cases, but a lot of us are over sensitive to pain.   

I know that I would not have coped with going to any kind of paying job in the last few weeks.  I also think I would have struggled to cope on quite a number of days in the last year to work to the point I could have easily lost a job.  I do volunteer work and try my best to be reliable, but it helps to know I can cancel at fairly short notice if I really need to.  With fatigue, chronic pain that can flare up almost without warning sometimes and mental health that is often very sensitive, I feel I would not be of much use to an employer or able to earn enough self-employed, at least at present.  

Many others on disability benefits like ESA will have their own stories as to why they currently do not work.  An awful lot of them will also have a combination of reasons like me and not just one thing.  

Autism Communities on Social Media  

​Social media is a great way for autistic people to connect.  There are many groups and pages on Facebook for autistic and nuerodivergent people.  When newly diagnosed these groups can be a great way to find out more about being autistic and find people who understand what we are going though.  Some groups can also be helpful for those who want to find out more about autism because they know someone autistic or work with autistic people. However some of these groups and pages need to be careful which direction they are going in and what they choose to focus on.  Some are in danger of becoming caught up on rules and worrying about seemingly minor issues to the point that they become less welcoming to new members.  Arguing amongst ourselves does not help us support each other or make us look very good to others.  A few groups are making some actually autistic people feel excluded from the autism community.

When you first join a group many have rules that admin have created.  The idea is that it keeps a group safe and allows admin to keep a group with the original aim it was intended for.  There are however some nuerodiversity and autism groups with lists of rules so long and complicated that I give up even trying to learn them all.  I use rules in my groups; they are a helpful way to tell people why you are removing a post or comment, but I try to keep them simple and not have too many of them.  When rules are too complicated you can find yourself in some groups having your post rejected and that is just a waste of time.  

Some groups even have rules about certain words or phrases you can use when referring to autism or autistic people.  There is a group of autistic people who are preoccupied with the language around autism.  I understand some of it and agree that some words and phrases can be detrimental to us as autistic people.  For example I think functioning labels do us no favours because they ignore the fact that we fluctuate in how well we function.  When describing autism we must be respectful in our use of language.  However some take this to extremes and to the point they start finding fault with language other autistic people are using in an innocent way.  There are now so many words and phrases that can come across as offensive to some in these groups it can be hard to know how to phrase something.  Some have even said they do not post much in these groups because they are worried about saying the wrong thing and upsetting someone.  I respect any autistic persons right to describe themselves how they like, but in turn they should respect my right to do the same.

One of the terms some autistic people now have issue with is special needs, preferring the term additional needs.  However I think whatever term is used it would eventually become seen as offensive because it is not the exact words, but the way they are used in association with disabled people that is the problem.  Some now get annoyed by calling it Autism Spectrum Disorder or ASD because they have a problem with the word disorder.  I do understand why, but it is what we are told we have when diagnosed, so people often use it, especially when newly diagnosed.  When finding out your new diagnosis to then have other autistic people tell you to even call it ASD is wrong is confusing, but worse still is when some tell others it is offensive to use the term and have a go at them for it.  Personally I think it makes little difference if you call it ASD or not.  

When youre worried about how you phrase something in a post every time it gets difficult, especially for some autistic people who already struggle with communication and getting their point across.  I have seen people leave groups because they say they felt harassed just for not wording something in an exacting way.  I leave groups that I can see are doing this on a regular basis, with admin who do nothing to stop it and in some cases are actually a part of the problem.  

One of the things I most dislike is when someone in a group calls another member ableist.  Calling another disabled person abablist is harsh.  Disabled people can be abalist against other disabled people, especially those with different kinds of disabilities to their own, but the term should be used extremely carefully against disabled people.  Some seem to think anyone who disagrees with their point of view is ableist.  I think autism and nerodiversity groups could in some cases be better at allowing a difference of opinion, as long as it is not disrespectful or rude, differing opinions can make a discussion more interesting and give us another way to think about something.  

I am not the only one who feels some autism groups go to far with certain issues.  In response to a recent comment I made in a group someone else said that whilst they agree some things can be used as a put down, some autistic people take it to a whole other level and make it a war.  Another said they do not care what we are called as long as people understand us and treat us properly, with basic human respect like any other person.  

Getting caught up in rules and language like this can mean we miss more important things.  I have seen whole posts rejected due to one or two words used in a way someone disagrees with despite the fact the post was actually making a very valid point.  There are some things autistic people do need to worry about and should make a big deal, such as ABA therapy, lack of support and opportunities in education and employment and how hard it is to even be diagnosed amongst others.  Being sidetracked and focusing on exact words and overly complex group rules means we do not get to focus on the important stuff as much.  The fact that many autistic people suffer from fatigue means we should pick our battles so we do not spend our limited energy on the things that over all do not matter so much.

I still think autism and nuerodivergent groups and pages are worth being a part of, they can be helpful and supportive.  We just need to be careful which ones we join and allow to influence us.  We need to remember that these groups and pages do not represent all autistic people.  Some do try to take a more generalised view of autism and to be inclusive, but one person or even a group will never speak for every autistic persons experience or point of view.    

There are some Facebook pages and groups I particularly think are worth following which have helpful, interesting and supportive posts.  They feel like safe spaces that are well moderated. 

  • Nigh.functioning.autism- a page of memes and information that can be worth sharing.
  • Autability- a page that gives clear information about what being autistic can be like.
  • Sensory Stories- this page is mainly about sensory processing disorder or SPD which many autistic people have.  It has some very well illustrated memes which give a good impression of living with SPD.
  • Adult Autistic Spectrum Community- has both a page and a group.  The page has useful posts about autism and the group is a great place to ask questions and discuss autism issues with actually autistic people.
  • Nuerodivergent Rebel- this page accompanies this persons blog, which is worth following.  The page posts interesting and informative articles about autism and nuerodivergent issues from various sources and has some good memes worth sharing.  The comments below some of the posts can provoke interesting discussions. 
  • Neurodiversally Unbroken- this is probably my favourite page about autism and nuerodivergent issues I have come across on Facbook.  The page has useful and thoughtful posts.  The page admin keeps an eye on the comments on each post and sometimes responds in a totally non-judgemental way.  The page feels very safe and welcoming.

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Autism Awareness Month My Thoughts 



April is World Autism Awareness Month.  It means autism charities and organisations try to further increase awareness of autism with information on social media, events, digital resources, partnerships with businesses and so on.  A lot of autistic bloggers get behind the month and post relevant things to support it.  I however will not be doing this and this is why.

There are too many awareness days, weeks, months for all kinds of things.  From diseases to mental health issues, sexuality to gender and even things that might surprise you like mathematics and statistics month to jazz appreciation month.  In the end it becomes lost in a sea of awareness or appreciation months and just another awareness thing.  It can become a little tricky trying to keep up with them all and in the end no one is more aware or appreciative of any of these things.

It is used by some charities as basically a month long fundraising event that actually has hardly any awareness involved.  Whilst I get that running a charity can be very expensive and fundraising is much needed, it gives the impression the month was set up just to make money.  I actually think the month was set up originally with good intentions and this was not the idea, even if I think the month is not worth having anymore.    

Some of the awareness things I come across are either stereotyping, patronising or even occasionally just wrong.  Clearly posted by a well meaning, but not actually autistic person some of the posts do nothing to help us.  I saw a post about traits to look for in autistic children, whilst I could relate to some of them, a lot of them could have been said about any child autistic or not and some were more stereotype traits that are not actually very common.  

Schools and business often take part in Autism Awareness Month, but all too often it is tokenism and done to make them look good, but actually achieves very little for autistic people.  For example autism hour in some shops, a specific hour once a day or week when shops make their stores more autism friendly by turning down the music, having softer lighting and having a more sensory friendly environment, along with other accommodations.  The idea was that shops then became more autism aware generally and hopefully carried on having an hour like this the rest of the year.  However many shops fail to do this and the staff do not seem any more autism aware than they were before.  In fact some shops actually say they are taking part in the hour and then according to some I have spoken to online who work in retail actually do very little during the hour to change anything.  Schools can download packs from charities and have autism awareness lesson or assemblies.  Many schools seem to do this and act like they are very supportive of autistic students, but then often fail to actually help an autistic student when it matters.  Until business start hiring more autistic people and actually agree to reasonable adjustments in the work place for autistics under disability law without making us have to fight for them and treat all autistic customers fairly they are hypocrites to call themselves autism friendly and should not be partnering with autism charities.  Until schools stop insisting on ABA or ABA like therapies and stop suspending or excluding autistic children without trying to help them, these autism awareness lessons are pointless.  

Autism awareness month can be used as a way to make a non autistic person feel good, without having much impact on actually autistic peoples lives.  The same can be said about other disability awareness months.  Stick a poster up, add a ribbon to your social media profile photo, maybe post a few autism memes to your social media wall and if youre feeling even more ambitious actually do some fundraising for an autism charity.  To me it can come across as look at me, Im so good and virtuous, look how much I support those poor unfortunate disabled people.  Although some may not even realise this is what they are doing and genuinely think they are helping, they often do it in a way that makes them look good and actually get the help wrong.  Posting memes that are wrong or supporting a charity that most actually autistic people do not like.  Plus how did a ribbon added to a social media profile photo ever achieve anything?  

A lot of autistic people no longer think we need awareness as most people have now heard of autism and would rather we renamed it autism acceptance month.  Then promote not trying to change us with ABA and actually try to understand us and think of us as not broken or useless.  Personally I doubt a name change would do much for the month and think we should focus on acceptance all year round and not focus too much effort onto just one month each year, but spread it out across the year.  

A note to American readers and other countries where Autism speaks are a big charity.  This charity here in the UK did not get very far when it tired to come here, but in America I know it has basically dominated world autism awareness month for some years now.  Please ignore their campaigns and do not fundraise for them, do not light up your social media page blue or add a blue ribbon to a profile photo.  I gather from a lot of American autistic people that they are out to try and find a cure for autism and spread a lot of miss information about it.  They dismiss actually autistic peoples opinions on a lot of things and have some very worrying ideas that are spreading beyond America.  

If you do want to be a part of world autism awareness month then pass on autistic peoples own memes, blogs, social media posts about it and listen to what autistic people themselves have to say. 

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Autisim is not a stereotype 

Autistic people vary, hence why it is called a spectrum.  There are lots of stereotypes about autistic people, some of which are true to me and some of which are not.  Of course stereotypes come from somewhere and will be true to some autistic people, but no autistic person has them all.  These are some of the stereotypes I come across and more about them.

  • All autistic people are  severely learning disabled and need some sort of carer

Well I am autistic and I live alone, no carer and no support worker.  Technically I probably do have a learning disability, but not what Americans call an intellectual one. I suppose I do get more support from my parents than a lot of people my age, but I dont see them everyday and I can manage most everyday tasks by myself.  Some autistic people do have carers that visit them at home or even live in supported accommodation, but this will be a co morbid learning disability not the autism itself.

  • Autistic people have some amazing skill and are savants 

I do not have an amazingly above average skill at anything as far as I know.  Savants as those with an amazing one off skill are known are really rare, even amongst autistic people.  

  • Autistic people are very quite, often mute

A lot of autistic people are very quite or mute, but a lot are actually very good at talking.  I talk so much I could be what some call hyperverbal and am in no way a quite person.  

  • Being autistic means being an introvert and not enjoying being sociable 

Along with the assumption we are all quite people, it is often assumed we are all introverts who avoid social interaction whenever possible.  However I am an extrovert and I enjoy being with my friends and socialising.  I do like some alone time, in fact I need it from time to time to recharge my social batteries so to speak, but too long alone and I actually get quite lonely and miss people.  I have never been in a position to describe myself as hugely popular, but that is not the same as being an introvert.

  • Autistic people do not drink alcohol

Along with the assumption we do not enjoy socialising; people are sometimes surprised that I drink.  I enjoy nights out and drinking with my friends.  I did have a faze when I gave up alcohol, but I decided that I actually quite liked drinking and seeing as I had never had a problem with alcohol decided it was fine for me to have a drink now and then.  There are quite a few autistic people who do not drink because they do not like the way they are when they are drunk or it is just not the kind of thing they enjoy, but plenty of us do drink alcohol.   

  • Autistic people struggle to understand their own and other peoples emotions

There are some autistic people who struggle with knowing what they are feeling, but most do know how they feel.  What some struggle with is putting across their emotions to other people.  Some find it tricky to find the right words to describe how they feel and some do not always have the response to an emotion others may expect, making it look like they do not understand how they are feeling.  Knowing how others around us are feeling can be tricky at times for anyone autistic or not, but on the whole autistic people do have empathy.  I like to think I am generally good at working out how others are feeling.  What I find tricky is having the appropriate response to certain emotions in certain situations, although I think I have got better at this over the years.  In fact some autistic people feel others emotions so strongly they tend to avoid emotional situations where possible.

  • Autistic people have no imagination and do not like fantasy 

Some people seem to think autistic people cannot imagine anything at all and have to be able to see something to comprehend it.  I have always had a very vivid imagination and am good at understanding things in the abstract.  I also always enjoyed role play as a child and pretending.  I am not sure where the idea that we do not like fantasy comes from because many autistic people enjoy it very much, both as books and films.  There are many autistic people who spend hours discussing fantasy worlds and writing fan fiction online.

  • Autistic people are all very serious, with no sense of humour and do not understand sarcasm 

Whilst we can be very serious about a lot of things others may find amusing, a lot of us do enjoy comedy.  I love comedy; some of my favourite TV shows are comedies and I enjoy watching stand-up comedians as well.  Some say autistic people do not understand sarcasm, but I really like a lot of comedy based around it.  I have also been known to use sarcasm myself.  There are autistic comedians and comedy actors who are brilliantly funny.  

  • All autistic people flap their arms or rock back and forth

Some autistic people do flap their arms or rock as a form of stiming.  Whilst I do stim, I do not do either of these.  I tend to use my hands against each other when I stim.  Stimming is very varied and a lot of autistic people stim in a more subtle way.  Some play with their hair, have an object they fiddle with or wiggle their feet.

  • Eye contact is impossible or at least very hard for us

This one is actually half true; many struggle to make eye contact with others.  I can make eye contact, but it does not always come naturally to me.  In some situations I have to actively think about doing it.  Some say they actually find eye contact painful, but a lot of us can do it if we have to.  Some autistic people do not seem to have any issues with eye contact though.  

  • Autistic people cannot tell a lie

I admit to not being a very good liar, but have been known to get away with a few little white lies before.  Whilst some autistic people are very uncomfortable with lying, some seem to be fantastic liars.  

  • Sport is something all autistic people dislike

I am not into sports much, but I do like swimming and I will happily watch international level gymnastics or ice skating on the TV.  A lot of autistic people do have less than great coordination, struggle with dexterity and find catching and throwing a ball difficult, as I did, which can put you off playing sports.  However some autistic people love sports and there are some who make it to professional level.

  • Autistic people cannot drive

I do not drive, but there is no medical rule that says autistic people can not drive.  Many do drive very well and even have jobs that are driving based.  Some do say they find driving very stressful, but some love it and say driving is actually good for their anxiety as it is a distraction from it.

  • Autistic people do not have sex

This one is very far from true.  Lots of us enjoy sex and whilst some say they are not very keen on it, this is true of the general population.  Some people just enjoy sex more than others and some people enjoy it more with the right person, nothing to do with being autistic.  This could actually be a dangerous stereotype as it could lead to a lack of sex education in some cases.  No matter if you think an autistic person has an interest in sex or not, understanding it is very important because they could become interested in it one day or they could be left very vulnerable.

  • It is not possible for autistic people to have children

Some seem to literally think we biologically cannot have children.  This shows a huge lack of understanding what autism actually is.  As a brain processing disorder, it does not affect reproductive organs.  Some I suspect when they say this actually mean we shouldnt have children, which is both wrong in many cases and extremely rude.
A lot of these stereotypes make assumptions about what autistic people can and cannot do.  We are like everyone else and vary in our skills.  Please stop assuming what we are capable of.  Some of the traits such as eye contact and understanding emotions are used as part of the diagnostic criteria, however no autistic person has every diagnostic trait and some have them to a lesser degree than others.  Autistic people do not want things they are capable of or enjoy doing denied to them due to wrong assumptions made about us.

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Autism Glossary 

A glossary of terms commonly used when talking about autism. When I first joined autism communities online some words and phrases were confusing terms for me and I thought it would be helpful to have a glossary of words to show how they specifically relate to autism and the autistic community.

The links used are where my main sources of information for each term came from, although I have often tweaked them to suit my needs and to what I feel fits best. The links provide more information on the terms should you be interested in finding out more.

ASD- Autism Spectrum Disorder

I did not even know where to start with describing what ASD actually is, so for this one I left it up to others with the quotes I think fit best.

‘Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a developmental disorder that affects communication and behaviour. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), people with ASD have: Difficulty with communication and interaction with other people restricted interests and repetitive behaviours

Symptoms that hurt the person’s ability to function properly in school, work, and other areas of lifeAutism is known as a “spectrum” disorder because there is wide variation in the type and severity of symptoms people experience.’ (https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/autism-spectrum-disorders-asd/index.shtml)

‘Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a developmental disability caused by differences in the brain. Scientists do not know yet exactly what causes these differences for most people with ASD. However, some people with ASD have a known difference, such as a genetic condition. There are multiple causes of ASD, although most are not yet known.’

(https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/signs.html)

Neurodversity/ Neurodivergent/ Nuerotypical

Neurodivergent people ‘have an atypical configuration, for example a person who has a developmental disorder and/ or a mental illness’, (www.disabled-world.com/disability/awearness/neurodiversity/).

Some types of recognised nureodivergence include autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, epilepsy, ADHD, OCD and Tourette Syndrome, alongside other developmental and mental health disorders.

A nuerotypical person is someone who is not nurodivergent and has what is generally considered a typical brain arrangement. Often referred to as an NT person within the autistic community.

DSM- The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders/ ICD- International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems

The DSM is published by the American Psychiatric Association and is the manual used to diagnose autism in the USA.

The ICD is a medical classification list by the World Health Organisation (WHO).

Although the DSM is not commonly used in the UK, it is likely to have an influence on the next edition of the ICD. The DSM manual was recently updated and a revised edition of the ICD is expected in January 2021.

Aspersers

Asperger’s used to be thought of as a separate condition to autism. But in 2013, the newest edition of the standard book that mental health experts use, called The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), changed how it’s classified. Now, Asperger’s syndrome is technically no longer a diagnosis on its own. It is now part autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Even so, lots of people still use the term Asperger’s.

Asperger’s type ASD people don’t have the learning disabilities that many autistic people have, but they may have specific learning difficulties. They may have fewer problems with speech but may still have difficulties with understanding and processing language.

(https://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/mental-health-aspergers-syndrome) (https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/what-is-autism/asperger-syndrome)

Self Diagnosis

Some adults identify as autistic without having an official diagnosis. After doing their own research on autism and sometimes chatting with other autistic people, they can come to the conclusion they are autistic. Some then go on to be formally diagnosed, but many do not. Some would like to be diagnosed officially, but find barriers stopping them. Some struggle to find a doctor who will refer them for the testing, it can be hard to be taken seriously by some doctors about autism. In some areas there is a lack of adult autism specialists to even refer someone to. Some can not afford to be tested, it can cost a lot of money and many insurance companies in the USA do not cover it. Some do not feel the need for a formal diagnosis; they feel they would not gain anything from it having already found support and information for themselves, often online. Self diagnosis is widely accepted by the autistic community.

Co morbid Condition

Co-morbidity is the presence of one or more additional conditions often co-occurring with a primary condition. ‘More than half the people on the spectrum have four or more other conditions. The types of co-occurring conditions and how they manifest varies from one autistic person to the next,’ (www.spectrumnews.org/news/conditions-accompany-autism-explained/)

ADHD- Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a mental health disorder that includes a combination of persistent problems, such as difficulty paying attention, hyperactivity and impulsive behaviour. ADHD causes hyperactivity and impulsive behaviour. People with ADHD often have trouble concentrating on tasks, are easily distracted, often have difficulty sitting still and often interrupt people when they are talking. Several traits of autism and ADHD overlap and this can cause incorrect diagnosis sometimes, although you can have both together.

(https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd)

ADD- Attention Deficit Disorder/ PDA- Pathological Demand Avoidance

Pathological Demand Avoidance is an Autism Spectrum Condition. Oppositional Defiant Disorder is not an Autism Spectrum Condition.

PDA is when there is an avoidance of the everyday demands made by other people, due to high anxiety levels when some feel that they are not in control. The main characteristics of PDA are resisting and avoiding everyday demands, using social strategies (such as distraction) to avoid demands, excessive and sudden mood swings and obsessive behaviour, often focused on people rather than objects.

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a disorder that is defined by a pattern of hostile, disobedient, and defiant behaviours. ODD is also characterized by angry and irritable moods, as well as argumentative and vindictive behaviours. These people will not only do things to purposely cause conflict or to purposely annoy the people around them, but they will oftentimes place the blame on others. ODD is most common in children, but a few never seem to grow out of it and will be ODD as an adult.

One difference between those with ODD or PDA is that thoses with ODD are less keen on embarrassing themselves in front of their peers; they are keen to fit in and can socialise in a typical way. People with PDA on the other hand, are more likely to have unpredictable outbursts, even in front of their peers, and they tend to try and control all social interaction without understanding why their peers do not like it and then shun them.

(https://www.stephstwogirls.co.uk/p/what-is-pda-pathological-demand.html) (https://www.valleybehavioral.com/disorders/odd/signs-symptoms-causes/)

OCD- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

OCD has two main parts, obsessions and compulsions. Obsessions are unwelcome thoughts, images, urges, worries or doubts that repeatedly appear in the mind. They can make someone feel very anxious or unconfutable. Compulsions are repetitive activities that done to reduce the anxiety caused by the obsession. It can be something like repeatedly checking a door is locked, repeatedly saying the same phrase over and over or making sure your shoe laces are tied in the correct way. OCD can fluctuate in severity, some days it can be manageable to the point it hardly shows and others it can make life really difficult. It can be worse when stressed or upset. There are several overlaps between autism and OCD, but the main difference is for autistic people, repetitive behaviours are often soothing and a source of enjoyment, but if you have OCD, the obsessions and compulsions are intrusive and upsetting. Quite often people have both OCD and autism.

(https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/ocd/autistic-adults) (https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd/about-ocd/)

SPD- Sensory Processing Disorder

Hypersensitivities may include an extreme response to sudden loud noises, may notice background noises others do not, hates being touched or fear of climbing or falling even when there is no real danger.

Hyposensitivities may include a constant need to touch people or surfaces even when inappropriate, may not understand about personal space, enjoys movement based play, very high pain tolerance and possibly a thrill seeker to a dangerous level. SPD used to be thought of as something only autistic people could have, but although many autistic people have it, it is now thought of as a stand-alone disorder.(https://blog.brainbalancecenters.com/2012/04/signs-and-symptoms-of-sensory-processing-disorder)

APD- Auditory Processing Disorder

An auditory processing disorder causes difficulties distinguishing subtle sound difference with words such as cat or bat. Focusing on the important sounds in a noisy setting can be difficult and remembering what has just been said can be tricky. APD is not related to hearing loss, the sounds can be heard, but the brain has trouble processing and making sense of it. APD is fairly common in people with autism.

(https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/child-learning-disabilities/auditory-processing-disorder/understanding-auditory-processing-disorder)

VPD- Visual Processing Disorder

As with auditory processing disorder, visual A glossary of terms commonly used when talking about autism. When I first joined autism communities online some words and phrases were confusing terms for me and I thought it would be helpful to have a glossary of words to show how they specifically relate to autism and the autistic community.
The links used are where my main sources of information for each term came from, although I have often tweaked them to suit my needs and to what I feel fits best. The links provide more information on the terms should you be interested in finding out more.

Self Diagnosis

Some adults identify as autistic without having an official diagnosis. After doing their own research on autism and sometimes chatting with other autistic people, they can come to the conclusion they are autistic. Some then go on to be formally diagnosed, but many do not. Some would like to be diagnosed officially, but find barriers stopping them. Some struggle to find a doctor who will refer them for the testing, it can be hard to be taken seriously by some doctors about autism. In some areas there is a lack of adult autism specialists to even refer someone to. Some can not afford to be tested, it can cost a lot of money and many insurance companies in the USA do not cover it. Some do not feel the need for a formal diagnosis; they feel they would not gain anything from it having already found support and information for themselves, often online. Self diagnosis is widely accepted by the autistic community.
Co morbid Condition
Co-morbidity is the presence of one or more additional conditions often co-occurring with a primary condition. ‘Moe than half the people on the spectrum have four or more other conditions. The types of co-occurring conditions and how they manifest varies from one autistic person to the next,’ (www.spectrumnews.org/news/conditions-accompany-autism-explained/)

ADHD- Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a mental health disorder that includes a combination of persistent problems, such as difficulty paying attention, hyperactivity and impulsive behaviour. ADHD causes hyperactivity and impulsive behaviour. People with ADHD often have trouble concentrating on tasks, are easily distracted, often have difficulty sitting still and often interrupt people when they are talking. Several traits of autism and ADHD overlap and this can cause incorrect diagnosis sometimes, although you can have both together.

(https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd)

ADD- Attention Deficit Disorder/ PDA- Pathological Demand Avoidance

Pathological Demand Avoidance is an Autism Spectrum Condition. Oppositional Defiant Disorder is not an Autism Spectrum Condition.

PDA is when there is an avoidance of the everyday demands made by other people, due to high anxiety levels when some feel that they are not in control. The main characteristics of PDA are resisting and avoiding everyday demands, using social strategies (such as distraction) to avoid demands, excessive and sudden mood swings and obsessive behaviour, often focused on people rather than objects.

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a disorder that is defined by a pattern of hostile, disobedient, and defiant behaviours. ODD is also characterized by angry and irritable moods, as well as argumentative and vindictive behaviours. These people will not only do things to purposely cause conflict or to purposely annoy the people around them, but they will oftentimes place the blame on others. ODD is most common in children, but a few never seem to grow out of it and will be ODD as an adult.

One difference between those with ODD or PDA is that thoses with ODD are less keen on embarrassing themselves in front of their peers; they are keen to fit in and can socialise in a typical way. People with PDA on the other hand, are more likely to have unpredictable outbursts, even in front of their peers, and they tend to try and control all social interaction without understanding why their peers do not like it and then shun them.

(https://www.stephstwogirls.co.uk/p/what-is-pda-pathological-demand.html)

(https://www.valleybehavioral.com/disorders/odd/signs-symptoms-causes/)

OCD- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

OCD has two main parts, obsessions and compulsions. Obsessions are unwelcome thoughts, images, urges, worries or doubts that repeatedly appear in the mind. They can make someone feel very anxious or unconfutable. Compulsions are repetitive activities that done to reduce the anxiety caused by the obsession. It can be something like repeatedly checking a door is locked, repeatedly saying the same phrase over and over or making sure your shoe laces are tied in the correct way. OCD can fluctuate in severity, some days it can be manageable to the point it hardly shows and others it can make life really difficult. It can be worse when stressed or upset. There are several overlaps between autism and OCD, but the main difference is for autistic people, repetitive behaviours are often soothing and a source of enjoyment, but if you have OCD, the obsessions and compulsions are intrusive and upsetting. Quite often people have both OCD and autism.

(https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/ocd/autistic-adults)

(https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd/about-ocd/)

SPDSensory Processing Disorder

Sensory processing disorder is when the brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the senses. Sensory issues are usually defined as either hypersensitivity (over-responsiveness) or hyposensitivity (under-responsiveness) to sensory input.

Hypersensitivities may include an extreme response to sudden loud noises, may notice background noises others do not, hates being touched or fear of climbing or falling even when there is no real danger.

Hyposensitivities may include a constant need to touch people or surfaces even when inappropriate, may not understand about personal space, enjoys movement based play, very high pain tolerance and possibly a thrill seeker to a dangerous level. SPD used to be thought of as something only autistic people could have, but although many autistic people have it, it is now thought of as a stand-alone disorder.

(https://blog.brainbalancecenters.com/2012/04/signs-and-symptoms-of-sensory-processing-disorder)
APD- Auditory Processing Disorder

An auditory processing disorder causes difficulties distinguishing subtle sound difference with words such as cat or bat. Focusing on the important sounds in a noisy setting can be difficult and remembering what has just been said can be tricky. APD is not related to hearing loss, the sounds can be heard, but the brain has trouble processing and making sense of it. APD is fairly common in people with autism.

(https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/child-learning-disabilities/auditory-processing-disorder/understanding-auditory-processing-disorder)
VPD- Visual Processing Disorder
As with auditory processing disorder, visual processing disorder is not about a visual impairment, but when the brain has trouble making sense of the visual input it receives. Some have trouble judging distances, with colour, size and direction. Again VPD is fairly common in people with autism.

(https://www.readandspell.com/visual-processing-disorders)

NVLD- Nonverbal Learning Disorder

A non-verbal learning disorder is characterised by good verbal skills whilst struggling with non-verbal ones. Picking up on body language such as voice tone and facial expressions can be tricky. It can affect social skills making it tricky to keep friends as social cues can often be missed. People with NVLD often talk a lot, but do not always share in a socially acceptable way. Spatial awareness can be another common issue with NVLD along with coordination issues and trouble with maths especially fractions, geometry and word problem. Although NVLD does not appear in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders and is not yet an officially recognised condition there is a growing awareness of it amongst medical professionals. Also there may be more specific conditions that are diagnosable as part of the NVLD that could get someone more support in education and disability services.

(https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/child-learning-disabilities/nonverbal-learning-disabilities/understanding-nonverbal-learning-disabilities)

(https://nvld.org/non-verbal-learning-disability/)

Learning Disability/ Intellectual Disability

Slightly confusingly here in the UK we often refer to learning disabilities as learning difficulties. Whilst we call intellectual disabilities learning disabilities.
A learning disability or difficulty is a condition that impacts on someone’s ability to learn something at the same rate as their peers. Having a learning difficulty does not make someone less intelligent, it means they have difficulties in a specific area. There are many kinds of learning difficulties including dyslexia, which affects someone’s ability to read and comprehend text. Dyscalculia, which affects maths capabilities and sometimes problem solving. Dysgraphia, which affects the physical act of writing and written expression, to name a few. Autistic people commonly have some kind of learning difficulty as a comorbid condition.

(www.understood.org)

An intellectual disability affects the way someone understands information and how they communicate. This means they can have issues learning new skills, understanding complex information and cooping independently. A learning disability can vary in severity. Some can look after themselves and live independently as adults, but take a while to lean new skills. Some need help with everyday tasks for their whole lives. Causes can include down syndrome, fragile x syndrome, cerebral palsy, problems in pregnancy or birth and exposure to certain diseases at crucial stages of development. About 1% of the general American population is thought to have an intellectual disability and about 10% of those with intellectual disabilities are thought to have autism.

(www.aruplab.com/testing/autism)

Savant Syndrome

A rare condition where someone with a developmental condition such as autism can have an extraordinary talent that stands out in contrast to their overall disability. Savant skills can exist in any area, but most commonly seem to occur in art, music, maths and memory recall. One in ten autistics are said to be savant, but there are even rarer cases of prodigious savant syndrome where an individual’s skill goes beyond what is seen in the general population. (https://molecularautism.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13229-018-0237-1) (www.ncbi.nlm.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2677584/)

Meltdowns

A meltdown is a reaction to sensory overload. To outsiders it can look like a temper tantrum, but it is not. A tantrum is more controlled and used by someone to get their own way. A meltdown is not so controllable and it is not something someone chooses to have. A meltdown can be triggered either suddenly, almost like a seizure or can be the result of lots of things over time building up and becoming too much. My meltdowns tend to be very angry and often involve a lot of shouting, stomping and crying, but some people also self harm and break things during a meltdown. A meltdown is horrible to go through and can be like all my recent emotions trying to express themselves and escape all at once. Feelings that tend to trigger meltdowns include frustration, confusion and anxiety.
Shutdowns
Some autistic people have shutdowns which can appear to be a bit like the opposite of a meltdown. A shutdown is about withdrawing from the world around them. It can be someone is unresponsive to communication; some hide away and some literally will be unable to move from the spot they are in no matter where they are even a public place. Shutdowns often have the same triggers as meltdowns and some meltdowns can turn into shutdowns, starting off with a meltdown then withdrawing till stress levels have reduced.

(https://www.autismwestmidlands.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/Meltdown_shutdown.pdf)
Stimming (Self-stimulatory behaviour)

Stimming is a repetition of physical movements, sounds, words, or moving objects. Almost everyone stims in some way, however in autistic people stims can be far more obvious and can carry on longer than in other people. Autistic people often stim to self sooth when stressed or anxious or to express frustration. Stims can include biting fingernails, hair twirling and drumming fingers. However in autistic people it could be rocking back and forth, snapping fingers, rubbing a particular object, chewing something or rubbing the skin. Rotating objects such as fidget spinners are also used as a form of stimming.

(https://www.healthline.com/health/autism/stimming#behaviors)

Self Injuries Behaviour

Self-injurious behaviour is a reflection of emotional distress and is usually an indication that someone is struggling to cope with overwhelming feelings. Some autistic people have stims that can be self-injuries behaviour such as head-butting, biting themselves, excessive scratching of the skin or punching themselves. Whilst autistic people should be free to stim, when a stim is self-injurious then it may need to be controlled in some way to prevent more harm. This can be done by redirecting the stim into something safer or changing the environment to prevent the need for the behaviour.

(https://www.jedfoundation.org/non-suicidal-self-injurious-behavior/)

Selective Mutism

Selective Mutism is a failure to speak in certain settings persistently. This is most common in children who often can speak fine at home, but struggle when in school and sometimes in other environments outside of home. Some will participate in events non-verbally and others may struggle to take part at all. Selective Mutism is classed as a social anxiety disorder and not diagnosed as part of autism, but seen as a separate condition by itself. It is sometimes misdiagnosed as autism as some of the characteristics are very similar. With Selective Mutism it is more about anxiety in particular settings, where as in autistic people it can be more about not understanding the subtleties of social interaction.
Echolalia/ Scripting

Echolalia is when someone repeats phrases and sounds they have previously heard as a form of communication. People with Echolalia often struggle with communication and may repeat exactly what they just heard on a TV show or in films or even what someone else has said to them. When used as a way to communicate when struggling to express themselves this is known as functional echolalia. A phrase from an advert or film maybe used that fits a situation. However non-functional echolalia is when the sounds or words have no real meaning to the situation. This can be used almost like a stim with the sounds having a calming effect on them. Most toddlers do this to develop language skills, but over the age of three this is far less common. However a lot of autistic children carry on using echolalia for far longer and especially if they’re experiencing delayed speech development. It is often a good sign that a child will eventually develop fully functional speech even if it is delayed in coming.

(https://www.healthline.com/health/echolalia#differences)

(https://www.verywellhealth.com/why-does-my-child-with-autism-repeat-words-and-phrases-260144)

Masking

Masking or camouflaging is where autistic people learn, practice, and perform certain behaviours and suppress others in order to appear more neurotypical. An example of masking might be an autistic person practicing smiling or making eye contact at moments that are considered ‘socially acceptable’ by neurotypical people, even though it feels uncomfortable and can be exhausting for them. Sometimes masking is more complex, for example an autistic child studying, and then mimicking the behaviours of a neurotypical child their age; from how they dress, to their interests, jokes, and social behaviours. Masking can be helpful in certain situations, but to always be hiding your true self can wear you out and can lead to mental health issues. Masking is often used when autistic people feel excluded from society or at least a certain situation they find themselves in.

(https://www.tiimoapp.com/blog/masters-of-masking-autistic-men-who-camouflage/)

Alexithymia

Alexithymia is a difficulty recognising emotions either your own or other peoples. Some can find bodily sensations connected to emotions confusing and struggle to communicate how they feel. It is not a formally diagnosable condition, but often goes alongside mental health conditions such as PTSD and depression. It is most commonly associated with autism, and whilst many autistic people have alexithymia, it is a distinct personality trait that not every autistic person has.

(https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326451#autism)

Hyperverbal

Whilst the stereotype of autistic people is that we hardly talk, some of us are actually hyperverbal meaning we over talk to an almost obsessive level. Often it is fuelled by social discomfort, a nervous trait used to try to disguise being uncomfortable. In my case, I have an overwhelming desire to say out loud a lot of what I am thinking. It is almost as if my thoughts do not seem valid if I do not say them out loud. Also I dislike long silences because then I have to listen to my own thoughts and with OCD and autism they can be sometimes not all that helpful to listen to.
Speech Therapy

A lot of autistic people have language and communication issues, speech therapy can help with this. There are various techniques that can be used to help an autistic child with this. As well as working on speech itself, other methods of communication are often explored. These can include electronic talking devices, signing, typing or a picture board. Sometimes this can lead a child to talk later once they have more confidence in communicating. Speech therapy maybe accessed through school, through a referral from a medical professional or privately. Sometimes an autistic adult may also benefit from working with a speech therapist.

Elopement/ Wandering

Elopement is the urge to leave a safe place such as school or home without telling anyone. It mostly commonly happens in some autistic children, but while most grow out of it, a few carry on this behaviour into adulthood. Some children with autism may not have the same awareness of their own safety as other children their age might which makes this behaviour worrying. Some will just keep going and run across roads or walk into dangerous areas such as building sites. The two main reasons a child may do this is either to leave a situation they are uncomfortable in or to get to someone or something they want. Some also just enjoy the feeling or running.

(https://www.appliedbehavioranalysisedu.org/what-is-elopement/)

ABA- Applied Behaviour Analysis

Applied analysis (ABA) is a behavioural therapy which has the goal of changing observable measurable behaviour, usually by manipulating a situation or using reinforcement. ABA is a fairly loose term these days to describe a lot of autism therapy and some of it is better than others. However most ABA is designed to get autistic people to be the same as their peers. The idea is often to get the autistic person to change rather than to accommodate them. This can result in autistic people doing things that make them uncomfortable or even hurt them in an effort to appear ‘normal’. A lot of autistic people are now speaking out against ABA as harmful as it can cause an autistic person to feel they are broken and that society rejects their true self.

(https://autisticuk.org/does-aba-harm-autistic-people/)

Advocate/ Advocacy

An advocate represents some ones views and rights. They make sure that a person is able to have their say and to access the services they need. Some autistic people struggle to communicate in certain situations or get confused easily by a situation they are not familiar with. An advocate is often a parent or family member, but could also be a social worker, carer, support worker or anyone who the person trusts to speak on their behalf. An advocacy service can also help, when an organisation can provide an independent advocate for someone. This maybe someone with specialist knowledge for a particular situation such as applying for benefits or legal situations. Other times an advocate can be useful is during medical appointments, dealing with housing issues and in educational settings.

(www.autismeducationtrust.org.uk/home-law-money-get-the-facts/what-is-advocacy/)

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Disabled Friendly Businesses

Many businesses open to the public could do more to make themselves disabled friendly.  Some seem to think it is OK to ignore disabled customers needs totally and some have made a good start, but could do better.  The disabled know that not every business can make themselves totally disabled friendly, some are restricted by the building they are in or by the nature of the business they do, what we are asking for is businesses to make adjustments where they can.  Many shops, cafes, pubs and other publically accessed buildings are actually missing out on what could be added income by not even considering the needs of disabled customers.  These are some of my suggestions to make businesses more disabled friendly. 

Ramps and hand rails

This may seem an obvious one, but some business have not even gone as far as making it possible for some people to get past the barrier of steps.  Some businesses cannot add a ramp permanently as they are a listed building or it would stick out too far onto the pavement, but they could often provide a portable ramp that can be put in place when needed.  Even if a business has a portable ramp, often it needs making clearer that they have one available and how to get it put out.  A sign needs to be put in the window that they have a ramp and how to get the staffs attention that it is required.  It is no good just having to yell in the hope they hear you through the door and down the other end of the shop or in a busy bar.  The best solution I have come across is a bell you can ring so that someone will come out and help.  Also if a ramp cannot be used, at least have hand rails that are in good condition at the side of the steps.  I have seen broken hand rails more than once or ones that just stop suddenly before the steps have ended, which is annoying. 

Heavy or difficult doors

After the barrier that is the steps, next comes the door.  Really heavy doors can be a problem for wheelchair users, those with any kind of walking aid and those with wrist or arm issues.  Not only is this an issue for the disabled, but those with pushchairs or heavy shopping.  Some doors can be so hard to open you think the business is closed when it is not.  Doors need to be kept well maintained if they are prone to swelling in damp weather and need to not be too heavy or stiff.  A good door handle is vital when not using automatic doors. 

Floor surfaces

Even the surface of the floor can be an issue in some places.  The floor needs to be kept smooth so a wheelchair can move across it.  Door mats and rugs need to be stuck down firmly so that people who find walking tricky or have walking aids do not get caught up in them, they can be trip hazards in some cases. 

Floor space

Some places have very little floor space which can be tricky for those in wheelchairs or on crutches needing space to manoeuvre.  Shops should avoid having items directly on the floor if possible.  Aisles should not be too close together, people need room to get up and down them without having to back a wheelchair up.  Cafes, restaurants and pubs often have their tables too close together, leaving no room for wheelchair uses to pull up to a table or for some people with walking aids, a tight squeeze can be near on impossible.

Lighting

Lighting is a very important factor in any business.  Places with really low lighting are frustrating to those with less than perfect eye sight.  Sure they are trying to create mood lighting, but when you struggle to see what you are doing it is just annoying.  Costa Coffee is one of the worst examples of this I have come across; almost all of them are pretty dark.  Then again lighting that is too bright can be painful on the eyes and can cause headaches, especially to those with sensory issues.  Flickering bulbs can cause problems for those with sensory issues as well, it is important to change bulbs that flicker promptly. 

Seating

Seating in a café, restaurant or pub needs to be comfortable to sit on for an extended period of time.  Too many pubs rely on stools for seating.  Whilst most people can sit on them for short periods, I have noticed not many people seem to find them comfortable for long.  Sofas and bucket style chairs seem popular in cafes these days, whilst these are fine for some people; they are often too low for me.  For those with back issues, hip or knee problems, chairs and sofas that you sink into can be hard to get on and off.  Too many places that serve food do not have chairs compatible to the height of the tables, which means you either end up with food in laps or setting off any back issues someone may have.  A range of different seating options is the best solution, but at least choose chairs at a sensible height with proper backs to them. 

Background music

Background music should be just that, in the background.  Some places have the music so loud that you cannot think what you are doing.  Those with sensory or concentration issues can find loud music so intrusive that they will just walk out again. 

Signs and menus  

Anywhere that serves food and drink needs to keep menus clear and easy to understand.  Some menus are too busy with so many visuals they are confusing.  Remember dyslexics and others who struggle with reading may find it tricky to understand a complex menu, keep the layout simple.  The same goes for signs, keep them simple with a clear font.

Helping customers

In a café or pub staff should help customers that are clearly struggling to carry a tray of food or drinks.  I have had staff just watch me struggle and if I drop it, they only make more work for themselves having to clear up the mess.  On the other hand in shops I have had over helpful staff who keep asking if I need help when I have clearly said no.  Some autistic people struggle with social interaction and this could be very off putting for them, especially if they are already struggling to concentrate in a public setting.  Staff should only ask once if someone needs help and should also not make me feel watched the entire time like I am some potential shop lifter, this has put me off some shops totally.

At the till

At the till it can take some people longer to pack their bags than others.  I would like to not feel rushed by the cashier as if I am being slow and do it on purpose.  When I was on crutches this was even worse as it could take me a while to put the crutches to one side, pack my rucksack, put it on my back and then get the crutches back on, but a few cashiers used to roll their eyes at me.  Other customers could also be more patient with someone on crutches or any kind of walking aid as shopping with them is not easy.  Also some people take longer when they have cognitive issues or even issues that can impair dexterity in their hands such as arthritis. 

Toilets

I have said this in previous blogs as it is one of my pet hates, badly designed or misused disabled toilets.  If possible a business should have a separate disabled toilet, disabled people can take longer than others and this helps free up the other toilets.  A lot of places also assume all disabled people are in wheelchairs and therefore put the mirrors really low, or quite often do not put any mirrors in at all, as if disabled people cannot possibly care about how they look.  Most importantly of all businesses should remember the disabled toilet does not double up as the cleaning cupboard!  There needs to enough space left for turning room for a wheelchair, but often the toilet is so cluttered that there is simply no room.

I hope this will start more of a debate around accessibility and give bsuiness owners more of an idea of disabled customers needs. Also I hope disabled people feel justifed in standing up for their rights as customers and start asking some places for better acsess.

Disability Memes

One of my pet hates is disability memes.  They either make fun of a disability, patronise the disabled person, deny the disabled any personality, often they decide for us how we should feel about our own disability, or they just get the facts about that disability wrong.  These are some I have come across that annoy me.

See the ability, not the disability

Whilst I wish employers felt this way more often and sometimes other people too, my disability is part of who I am and people are bound to notice it after a while.  What I would rather people saw is the disability and my ability, that way recognising both what I can do and that I may need extra support in certain areas or some adjustments. 

Differently abled, not disabled

This one is often used in reference to autism and learning disabilities.  Denying our disabilities could result in denying us the support we may need.  When used by other people about us it is like they are saying we have decided for you that this is not a disability and therefore you can’t call yourself disabled, when actually it is up to us if we see it as a disability or not.  Personally I find my autism does disable me and am OK with calling it a disability, but not all autistics like to call it that.

OCD should be rearranged to CDO

This one really annoys me as it makes light of what can be a very crippling mental health disorder for some people.  It also totally misunderstands what OCD really is, I have never had the desire to rearrange acronyms to make them alphabetised as they would then make no sense, which I am sure the person posting the meme knows, but still not funny.  In fact there are several OCD memes out there which are pretty much a mick take of the disorder and make it harder for people to get help and get a diagnosis as they think it may not be taken seriously.

I am proud of my autism

Why would I be proud of something I did not strive to achieve?  This one makes very little sense to me.  I am proud some of the things I have done with my life, such as my degree, but I am not proud of having a neurological difference because it is just part of who I am like it or not.

Never ignore someone with a disability as you don’t realise how much they can inspire you

Disabled people are not here to inspire others; we are not ‘inspiration porn’.  The term inspiration porn was ‘coined in 2012 by disability rights activist Stella Young in an editorial in Australian Broadcasting Corporation’s webzine Ramp Up and further explored in her TEDx Talk. She rejected the idea that disabled people’s otherwise ordinary activities should be considered extraordinary solely because of disability,’ (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inspiration_porn)

Calling disabled people inspiring dehumanises them.  It is saying they have no personality of their own because it assumes we must all be nice people because no one would want to be inspired by someone not very nice.  However disabled people do of course have personalities, some of which you may not like.  It also puts a lot of pressure on disabled people to have to always manage by themselves and keep going when they really have reached their limit and need to admit something has defeated them, or they need help.

The only disability in life is your bad attitude

This goes with the last one in that it puts pressure on disabled people to think they have to manage everything and do it by themselves.  Disabled people are just trying to live their lives and learning to deal with their disabilities in the same way everyone else is trying to deal with their own issues and problems.  Also it puts a lot of pressure on people with mental health disability issues to suddenly rise up and become better almost over-night.  Yes attitude does play a role in what you can achieve in your life, but it is not the only thing that affects it.    

Children with autism are colourful and beautiful and like a rainbow they stand out

I stood out as a child, but for the wrong reasons.  All I wanted to do at times was fit in, not stand out.  Autistic people are no more or less beautiful than anyone else.  Stop calling disabled children rainbows, it is patronising.  These sorts of memes are nearly always aimed at the parents and relatives of disabled children to make them feel better and what they need to realise is their child is still a child and no amount of slushy rainbow talk will change anything.

I would like to ask you to stop sharing disability memes for disabilities that you do not have yourself.  Even if you are disabled if the meme refers to a different disability to your own then I would urge caution on sharing it.  Without intending to these memes can cause upset or annoyance for those with the disability.

Autism is Varied

Autistic people share certain difficulties, but being autistic will affect them in different ways, Autism is a spectrum

Put a group of autistics together and they are bound to get along, WRONG!  The thing with autism is that it is so varied we can end up clashing.  One autistics need could be another autistics meltdown trigger.  For example some autistics needs peace and quiet, but at certain times too much silence can be bad for me, giving my OCD thoughts and anxiety a chance to take over.  I used to be part of an autism support group on Facebook.  It was fine for a couple of months, but people started disagreeing on various topics, getting more and more heated in debate.  In the end it led to arguments and people getting upset, so I left the group.  If autistics struggle to get along with other autistics, how an earth do we expect to get along with non-autistic people?

Actually I sometimes find non-autistic people easier to get along with.  They can be more willing to except difference and change, more able to understand that people’s opinions may differ from their own, less easily upset and stuck in their own way of doing things.  An autistic person may obsessively tell me about a hobby or interest to the point I am almost at meltdown and have to find an escape from them.   I find some non-autistic people very hard to get along with, but no more so than some autistics.  Autistic people like everyone else have personalities so we will not all get along.

The National Autistic Society in the UK campaign for more autism friendly services and shops.  The trouble is what is more autism friendly for one autistic may not be for another.  I do wish other people understood autism better and were more excepting of our needs and differences, but I feel the term ‘autism friendly’ can be misleading.  It assumes that all autistic people need the same changes, which is simply not true.  I would rather people just accept us as a bit different and that we may not fit the social model of ‘normal’ all the time.

The fact that autism is so varied can be an issue.  Instead we need to look at it more as an umbrella term rather than as one specific thing.  It is several conditions that have common characteristics.  There is a need for books and guides on the subject of autism to not stereotype or it could be a case of ‘oh, but the book says…’.  I tend to find the books written by autistics themselves are often better than those written by so called experts on the subject. 

I recommend The Girl with the Curly Hair Project as a good guide to what autism is like for a lot of people, especially females with Asperger Syndrome.     https://thegirlwiththecurlyhair.co.uk/

AARGH!

Autistic Meltdowns

I suddenly start to yell at the people around me, getting increasingly loud.  I yell abuse, threats and swear.  I stamp my feet, bash the table and cry, sobbing loudly.  I look like a toddler having a tantrum, except that I am a full grown adult.

A tantrum is voluntary, used as a tool to manipulate and get your own way.  However I have no control at this point, there is no planned purpose or manipulation intended.  My emotions are at over load and crashing down like an avalanche.  I am having an autistic meltdown.

This describes my meltdowns at their worst, when I totally loose it.  Not all my meltdowns are at that level.  They vary in intensity and in how long they last.

What causes me to have a meltdown is not always easy to pinpoint.  It can be caused by a sudden change in plans or lack of knowing what the plans are.  If plans are made and I am expected to be part of those plans, but I am not informed in exact detail as to what those plans are in advance, it can cause me to get confused and upset.  Any kind of confusing situation can cause a meltdown if it continues being confusing for a significant length of time.  Frustrating situations such as people continuously not listening to me or things going wrong a lot can be a trigger.  Another trigger can be interrupting one of my OCD routines, when I am already somewhat stressed.  Fatigue can be a cause, when I am too tired to control myself any more.  Major disappointment has been a trigger in the past.  Sometimes a meltdown can be me having made such an effort to fit into a situation for hours that I eventually explode.  I will have kept back opinions, been polite to people who frustrate me and basically have been in a situation I find difficult for so long that in the end a meltdown is like a cathartic release.  Putting pressure on me to do something I have clearly already said no to is a big trigger and can cause me to feel like you do not respect me, no means no!

Often a meltdown may not be caused by one specific thing, but by a series of things that can build up over time.  It can take hours or days for the triggers to build up sometimes and one last thing can be the final straw.  I can sometimes work out why I had a meltdown afterwards, but often struggle to know at the time and sometimes never figure it out.  Asking me at the time why I am having a meltdown is not a good idea, often it just makes my meltdown worse, making me frustrated that I do not know why I am having it.

Sometimes I can feel myself getting increasingly annoyed and know I need to get away from the situation.  If I need to leave a room or walk away let me, it will be better for everyone.  However I can’t always feel it coming and it will happen like it or not. 

When I was younger I had more frequent meltdowns that often lasted longer than they do now.  I had them a lot as a teenager in school.  I think I was frustrated with life then, feeling trapped in a school that did not really meet my needs.  Being undiagnosed I was not getting the right support.     Also I am sure puberty played a part.

I still have meltdowns, but less often than I used to.  I feel maturity has helped a lot having had time for my hormones to settle down and time for me to get used to life as an adult.  I also feel my independence has helped me.  Since l got my own flat I feel more stable and able to manage my own life.  I am in charge of what do and when, making me less confused and frustrated.  I am also better at dealing with certain kinds of stressful situations.

When I do have a meltdown now I find I they do not last as long as they used to.  I can calm myself down more quickly and rationalise with myself somewhat about the situation.  Being angry at people who can do nothing to help is daft and will not get me anywhere.

Yoga breathing can help slightly to prevent a meltdown getting worse, but it depends on the exact situation.  It helps me to focus my mind on the breathing and think calmer thoughts. 

I hate that I still have meltdowns at all.  It makes me come across as immature and selfish.  It gives the wrong impression about me to other people, like I am just some angry, hate filled bitch.  Telling me to grow up or to stop being so over sensitive is unhelpful, if I could totally stop having meltdowns I would.