One of my pet hates is disability memes. They either make fun of a disability, patronise the disabled person, deny the disabled any personality, often they decide for us how we should feel about our own disability, or they just get the facts about that disability wrong. These are some I have come across that annoy me.
See the ability, not the disability
Whilst I wish employers felt this way more often and sometimes other people too, my disability is part of who I am and people are bound to notice it after a while. What I would rather people saw is the disability and my ability, that way recognising both what I can do and that I may need extra support in certain areas or some adjustments.
Differently abled, not disabled
This one is often used in reference to autism and learning disabilities. Denying our disabilities could result in denying us the support we may need. When used by other people about us it is like they are saying we have decided for you that this is not a disability and therefore you can’t call yourself disabled, when actually it is up to us if we see it as a disability or not. Personally I find my autism does disable me and am OK with calling it a disability, but not all autistics like to call it that.
OCD should be rearranged to CDO
This one really annoys me as it makes light of what can be a very crippling mental health disorder for some people. It also totally misunderstands what OCD really is, I have never had the desire to rearrange acronyms to make them alphabetised as they would then make no sense, which I am sure the person posting the meme knows, but still not funny. In fact there are several OCD memes out there which are pretty much a mick take of the disorder and make it harder for people to get help and get a diagnosis as they think it may not be taken seriously.
I am proud of my autism
Why would I be proud of something I did not strive to achieve? This one makes very little sense to me. I am proud some of the things I have done with my life, such as my degree, but I am not proud of having a neurological difference because it is just part of who I am like it or not.
Never ignore someone with a disability as you don’t realise how much they can inspire you
Disabled people are not here to inspire others; we are not ‘inspiration porn’. The term inspiration porn was ‘coined in 2012 by disability rights activist Stella Young in an editorial in Australian Broadcasting Corporation’s webzine Ramp Up and further explored in her TEDx Talk. She rejected the idea that disabled people’s otherwise ordinary activities should be considered extraordinary solely because of disability,’ (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inspiration_porn)
Calling disabled people inspiring dehumanises them. It is saying they have no personality of their own because it assumes we must all be nice people because no one would want to be inspired by someone not very nice. However disabled people do of course have personalities, some of which you may not like. It also puts a lot of pressure on disabled people to have to always manage by themselves and keep going when they really have reached their limit and need to admit something has defeated them, or they need help.
The only disability in life is your bad attitude
This goes with the last one in that it puts pressure on disabled people to think they have to manage everything and do it by themselves. Disabled people are just trying to live their lives and learning to deal with their disabilities in the same way everyone else is trying to deal with their own issues and problems. Also it puts a lot of pressure on people with mental health disability issues to suddenly rise up and become better almost over-night. Yes attitude does play a role in what you can achieve in your life, but it is not the only thing that affects it.
Children with autism are colourful and beautiful and like a rainbow they stand out
I stood out as a child, but for the wrong reasons. All I wanted to do at times was fit in, not stand out. Autistic people are no more or less beautiful than anyone else. Stop calling disabled children rainbows, it is patronising. These sorts of memes are nearly always aimed at the parents and relatives of disabled children to make them feel better and what they need to realise is their child is still a child and no amount of slushy rainbow talk will change anything.
I would like to ask you to stop sharing disability memes for disabilities that you do not have yourself. Even if you are disabled if the meme refers to a different disability to your own then I would urge caution on sharing it. Without intending to these memes can cause upset or annoyance for those with the disability.